Questions to ask your wife on date night
One of the observations that we make in the Song of Solomon is how the husband (in this case Solomon) draws out his wife and connects with her emotionally.
"Oh my dove, in the clefts of the rock, in the secret place of the steep pathway, let me see your form, let me hear our voice; for your voice is sweet, and your form is lovely." Song of Solomon 2:14
One of the more challenging things for me personally is to be creative and intentional with my dates with my wife to dig into her soul. I hope these questions will serve you men as it has served me.
Weekly Date Night Questions
How am I doing as your husband/wife?
What are ways I have encouraged you this week?
What are ways I have discouraged you this week?
Questions to Ask Your Spouse Each Year
- Name one thing I do that makes you feel loved.
- What could I do to cause you to feel more loved?
- Name one thing I do that causes you to feel understood.
- What could I do to cause you to feel more understood?
- Name one thing I do that causes you to feel secure.
- What could I do to cause you to feel more secure?
- Name one thing I do that causes you to feel confident in our future direction?
- What could I do to cause you to feel more confident in our future direction?
- Name one way I serve you that brings you great joy.
- What mutual goal would you like us to accomplish?
- How is our sex life?
- Is there anything I can do to make our sex life better?
- How are we doing with our family budgeting and finances?
- What is one thing we can do to improve our budgeting and finances?
- Name one personal goal for your life that I can help you achieve this year.
- How are our relationships with our extended family (parents, siblings, etc.)?
- Name one thing I can do to improve one of these family relationships.
- Name one way that God has blessed our marriage.
- Name one way that we could make our marriage more Christ-like.
- Name one sin that you continue to struggle with.
- What could I do to help you with this struggle?
- Name one sin you see that I continue to struggle with.
- What would you encourage me to do to deal with struggle?
- Is there some way that you can help me with this struggle?
- How is your devotional time going? (Specifically Scripture study & prayer)
- Is there another spiritual discipline that you would like to develop? (fasting, Scripture memorization, etc.)
- What can I do to help your love for God grow?
- In ten years where do you hope to be spiritually?
- What could I do to lead/submit better in our marriage?
- On a scale of 1 to 10, how would you rate our marriage?
- What would make our marriage a ten?